OK...so I am not ab-normal. Sounds like lots of you have dreams about your ex. Just seems weird that it is still going on. That subconscious must have something to work out.
Funny thing happened after I blogged about all of this and how I have never run into my ex and we live a town away from each other...well I went to WalMart after work last night and guess who I saw? No, not him, but his brother. Yeah...that is weird. I am not sure if he saw me, we definitely did not talk or even lock eyes...but I swear it was him. Boy, I felt weird. Like, what would I say if we did talk? What would I ask? What would I tell him about me? And then, I proceeded to dream about that "conversation" we would have had. Crazy.
OK...now onto the next issue:
Why is everyone going private? Has something happened that made you all make this decision so spur of the moment (besides Christina going private?) Have you run into problems or is it more just a "just in case" kind of thing or mainly because y'all had babies and are being responsible mothers in terms of their security? I would like to know your reasons.
I guess I decided to remain public, but I took some pictures down just in case someone runs across my blog. Plus, I don't go by my full name either nor use too many names in my posts. So, in a sense, I am a bit private about it all. And baby stuff, well she has her own blog which IS private, so that isn't an issue.
Do you guys think I am too big of a sissy for not using real names? Do you wonder, hmmm, who is this person and should I trust her with my information, blog, email address? Do you wonder why I don't just go private so I can then use my real name and the real names of those I know?
Am I an odd creature?
I do take risks with some of the things I talk about. And I often wonder when I talk to my MIL if she some how read my blog talking about her or whatever, and wonder if she is mad or thinks of me different. I am not worried at all about friends (because most of them don't blog or even know what it is). And actually, I don't worry much about family, because they don't blog or know much about it either. But, I have come to accept that if they read it, they are going to read it. If I happen to be talking about my DH and I having SEX, and my MIL or SIL reads it...well, that is up to them if they are really that intersted in our sex life (which I doubt they are).
But, I also don't think I get that personal or deep or discuss topics that would embarrass me if someone I know ran across my blog. Not sure why. I wonder if I am really biting my tongue when I write or maybe I am just not that interesting of a person? Just boring everyday stuff.
Who knows, maybe one day I will want to go private. Or, maybe one day I will go back to the Nest where I feel a little more hidden from the normal blog world. Hey, did you guys know they have "The Nest Baby" now? Yeah, odd. Still your same Nest site, but you can opt for the Baby site. Kind of like the Knot or the Nest, but it is called The Nest Baby.
I wish sometimes we all had our own little "website community" where we could all go, be ourselves, share our babies and our lives, and not be scared that someone may lurk into our busienss who shouldn't be. Of course, be open to outsiders, just not those crazy outsiders. I just don't think that exists in the world of the net since anyone can claim to be someone they really aren't. And that is where all this "privacy" starts.
OK, enough ramble for a Friday.
Please pray for my FIL who is back in the hospital because of dehydration and a blockage in his kidney. Not sure how long he will be there, but hopefully only a couple of days. He has lost over 35lbs in 4-weeks. Yeah, not good. He has some sort of virus in his gut as a result of the stem cell transplant. Hope they get that fixed quickly.
Have a good weekend girls!
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well, my decision came before I even knew that Christina was going to call it quits, then start her private blog... but it was for a lot of the same reasons that she did. And also because it is way too easy to find me in a google search with only a little bit of info that you can get on my blog. I wish I could erase all those sites that come up and then I'd feel better, but it's just a personal decision that I made.
And about the beginning of your post, that kind of thing happens to me all the time... I dream about people, then see them, or someone related to them somehow, or get a call or email from them. Pretty freaky sometimes, but it happens a lot to me.
I decided to go private for a couple of reasons...... one reason of course is the protective mom in me. I post quite a few pictures of Mia and I don't want to worry about some wierdo looking at them. Also, I have an ex-finace who was a stalker. I mean he was arrested and charged with harrasment and stalking(long and scary story) when I broke off our engagement. I haven't heard anything from or about him in about 3 years, but I don't need him to know what is going on in my life. (all of my dreams about him are scary) I also feel by going private I can be a little more open with the close group of friends that I have met through blogging. It might limit me from meeting a few new people, but I really like the group of women that I blog with now so that is OK with me.
As far as the dreams....I think it is perfectly normal to wonder about what happened to people you previously cared deeply for. I am sure he wonders the same things about you!!!
If you do decide to go private please send me an invite!!!
I decided to go private because I realized how easy it is to find people on line. I feel more comfortable sharing information when I know who has access to it.
I miss the community of the nest too. Too bad they had to change things. Have a good weekend!
I was forced to go private! I didn't want to. But I caught someone reading my blog that was not supposed to see it. She had snooping on my computer and found it and then had been reading it for months. I had written about her on there and was mad. But hey-my blog, my journal. I didn't mention her name just some stuff that had happened. So I decided that I wanted to know everyone reading my blog. So i went private. I didn't want to but I sleep better now. Especially since I do use a lot of my families names. Plus I have told people where I work. It would be easy to find me.
I've stayed public but use a nickname for my daughter. I don't use my last name although there are pictures. I have my own website that I run the blog from and while I could take it private it I haven't had the need to yet. Heck, as far as my MIL is concerned sometimes I wish she would find the blog and read what I wrote about her so at least she'd know exactly what I think of her antics rather than having to dance around the issues with her. Not the best Christian attitude but she is definitely one of my EGR (extra grace required) people in my life right now.
Your FIL & family will be in my prayers.
Ah, the constant blogging debate--private or public? I went private for the reason you mentioned pertaining to MIL--only my reason was over SIL. I felt soooo much safer after I went private, but I still worry from time-to-time that even being on private isn't enough to keep out someone who REALLY wants to get in. *sigh* There are no easy answers.
And just so you know...Lisa's going through some issues right now that she needs to sort out on her own, and I'm pretty sure that's why she went private. I think she just needs her space for right now.
I had contemplated my move for quite some time partially because (as you know), I do a lot of "therapy" posting on my blog and I didn't want the wrong person finding one of my therapy entries about them...I feel so much better now that I know who is reading about my "issues." :) Of course, I also have the non-private blog so that also was a factor in my privatizing.
I have dreams about ex BFs, too...not to worry. :)
Happy Independence Day!
I'm so sorry about not commenting but I am using this naptime to catch myself up :)
How is the sleep situation w/Miss J going? Hopefully it's improving. Lila's been coming into our bed early lately & not getting back to sleep so it's been rough here. I hope you are doing well & I will keep your family in my thoughts :)
Kristina
I actually had an ex dream the night after I commented on your other post! It must have brought it to my subconcious. HA!
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