Where's the manual?

So, where is the manual when your 20 month old daughter decides she is going to cry and throw a temper tantrum because you won't hand feed her breakfast (she has her own fork and fingers!!)?? Huh??

Can the terrible twos start early...or is this really just a pre-quel??

That is our latest battle with Miss J. She has begun to not listen, walk the other way when I say to come here, and throw a real tantrum when someone tells her no or takes something from her that she is not supposed to have.

I really thought we would be able to skip over this stage. Like she would be such a great little girl, who listened (for the most part), who obeyed (for the most part), and would not throw a tantrum because you told her NO!!

Obviously...not the case.

I need a manual on how to handle this. I mean, really. How do you discipline a 20 month old who really does not have the verbal or mental capability of comprehending what is going on. Comprehending that you are telling her this is unacceptable behavior and will not be tolerated, go to your room until you are done crying.

Right...like she gets that.

So there has to be a trick? Without being a pushover mom, without trying to talk baby talk to her and get her to understand.

I guess trial and error. Try to find something that works for her age that is not encouraging her throwing a tantrum all the time. I know...she is searching for her boundaries...got it...but how to you set those boundaries while telling her NO and letting her know it is unacceptable to run toward the street when I am asking you to come inside. I mean really!!

Fun fun...what all ya mommies get to look forward to shortly (who haven't already been through it).

Mother's day was nice and relaxing. DH and DD bought me some hanging baskets for the yard and a new indoor mandavilla vine plant (can't wait to get that planted and growing, it is really pretty). Miss J and I spent the day with my mom, had brunch, highlighted hair, did some shoe shopping. Not much, nothing fancy, just nice.

Wedding is almost here...we all cannot WAIT until it is over. I cannot believe the little things this girl is worrying about and getting all worked up about. I mean, really, do you just need something to bitch and moan and complain about...cause I can give you something!!

Dh has been working a lot on his mom's house to get things ready for the wedding. Not that the wedding is there, but all the girls are going to get ready there and I guess really it is a goal to get stuff done that has been lingering for years. Like painting the outside of the house, gutters, rebuilding the shed outside. DH has been working on most of that, so it is long drives up there and long days with his sister and mother listening to them B and moan about the wedding and how there is so much to do and not enough time...yada, yada, yada.

Makes my stress level go up just thinking about it.

The other thing making my stress level go up...the fact that DH is at home some days, looking for a job...but also could be really making some progress on his business. Getting fliers put together, getting the website up and going, making contacts, calls. It really bugs me that he is not a very motivated person. And then I am left being the one nagging him all the time and he gets pissed at me. Or...he waits for me to do it or initiate it and I just don't have the stinking time right now. I am working all day, come home, make dinner, do dishes, get Miss J to bed...then I have no energy to focus on his stuff...come on. I wish he would annie up and get rolling on what I think are simple easy tasks that he does not need mommy to do for him. How the heck do I motivate him without doing it myself? I don't know. Been struggling with that for years, hence the reason the business is still sitting on the sidelines!!

OK...enough vent for the day.

I am feeling lousy with my allergies and sinus' acting up. I thought Sunday/Monday would be the worst, but today is. Draining and foggy and pressure and thick yucky stuff...ugh. I stayed home Monday, but had meetings yesterday and today. I might head home early and try to rest. It stinks being pregnant and sick, even with allergies, because you can't really take the OTC that works for you...you know, those 12-24 hour tablets full of pseudoephedrine!! So I settle for the lower dose, 4-6 hour stuff and try not to take it constantly. Ugh...just hope it gets better soon and doesn't turn into a full blown cold, which is what usually happens.

BP2 is doing great. I am finally getting a bit of a belly. I know, sounds weird doesn't it. But I still don't really look pregnant. I look, well, thick, and like I have gained 10 lbs. Not complaining though. I got a spray tan on Monday...trying it out for the wedding so I don't look like a pale white fat ghost in a black maternity dress in a few weeks. It turned out really good. I think I might do a few more sessions just to get a nice color. Then I can work with the sun the rest of the summer.

Other than that...nothing new. Going through life, day by day, like everyone else. Despite this post that seems to complain about everything!! Oh well, this is my "clear my head" place...thanks for reading and not going elsewhere!!