Thursday, May 29, 2008

Wedding stress

The Verdict post is below...

I just had to post again because it really frosts my cookies and I do everything I can to stay out of the middle and not get myself worked up...and I was sure hoping this wedding was going to go by without me getting in the middle and worked up...but I am not so sure now.

Really...do some people just not handle stress well. I mean, I know the answer to that and that there are different kinds of stress. But isn't a wedding a good stress? Wouldn't you think you would be stressed to get the stuff done and the programs finished and the last minute details finalized...but really be glowing and so excited inside that things just flow...not nipping and snapping at people when they called or jumping down their throats??

I don't know about this wedding thing. I am really getting scared about how the day is going to flow. I am definitely going to do my best NOT to get involved or say a word the wrong way...but I think I am going to have the problem mostly with my DH. He kind of has the same personality as my MIL and SIL and snaps on a moments notice (no question a reaction to how he grew up). So if they get stressed and jump down his throat, he can't just let it roll off his back...he joins in. Which, in turn, after repetitive over and over annoyance, I join in too. Then it becomes this field day where we both bitch and moan and complain about them and about anyone or everything around us. Ugh...

I don't know why they are the way they are...they just are (ha, that sounded funny).

But I hate playing along and joining in for their games. It frustrates me and is definitely NOT who I am. But I have to go with the flow and TRY not to let it get to me tonight and tomorrow. I think if I can get through these next two days, things will calm down and become a little more tolerable. I mean, I know they have always been this way, but it comes and goes depending on how much we see them, talk to them, or how much is going on in the lives of the P's. So this wedding thing...oh yeah...huge and constant. And the only way I have avoided it is to NOT see them or try to talk to them, and that can be hard when they want to see Miss J. And tonight/tomorrow...it will be impossible.

So, lots of prayers for all of us. For the bride, for the groom, for the MIL, for DH, for me!! I am going to continue to pray all day and all night tonight and into tomorrow for some comfort and peace (for ALL of us). I wish there was something I could do or say...but I don't want to piss them off anymore. So let God take care of it...right.

Ahhh, OK. Got that off my back. Now back to our regularly scheduled day!!

4 comments:

Emma's Mommy said...

Will keep you in my prayers. Weddings are supposed to be a time of joy!! Not stress!! But if things get to be too much.....just remember......you are having a beautiful, healthy, handsome, perfect baby BOY!!!!

Rachel said...

Ahh weddings. Mine was so stressfree that I can't relate to the frazzled feeling that some brides describe. I feel like you say, yeah it may be stressful,but a joyous stress. I mean. I would think so anyway. Hang in there. I understand when other people have rotten attitudes. It helps to just stay away from them. But that can be hard. Good luck and I will be thinking about you!

Platinum Rose said...

I hope everything went as ok as possible!

Amy said...

I am sure by now all the wedding stress is over and you can relax - hopefully!!!!

Let us know how it all went down :)