Monday, December 1, 2008

Another week

Now into my second week, first full week, but second week back to the bump and grind of a working full time mommy with two kids and a hubby.

First week was good. Monday morning did NOT turn out to follow my "plan" at all. But what would you expect with a 7 week old and a toddler who is not sleeping through the night and insists on getting up at 5am every morning no matter what time she goes to bed. And that is exactly what happened. EVERYONE was up at 5am on Monday morning (except hubby who theoretically didn't need to be up until 6am...but was forced beyond his will to be UP with us)!! What the heck do I do in that situation? I made do. Found some Curious George for Miss J to watch, had DH feed JW while I showered. I pumped while Miss J and I ate breakfast. And to my surprise, I was still out the door and on time to work!!

Now this morning...much more of what I would like to have happen each morning. JW was up a 4am, but I brought him to bed and he slept until 6am. Miss J, didn't get up until 7am, but that was only because she didn't get a nap yesterday (after sitting in her room singing for over an hour during her nap, we just said to heck with it and she made it until 7pm). So I was up to shower, fed JW, and packed my lunches/bags all before Miss J was up. Then we ate breakfast together and were off and on time to work!

Now, I wish there was a little more for me to do at work this week...but I guess I will get brought back up to speed in time. I just feel a little frustrated not "working" yet. But at least I can catch up on me time in the mean time. Getting through my list of "to do's" for me and family stuff for holidays and all. I can get so much more done at work than I can at home with a baby in tow!

Some frustrating news was brought to me from my mom last week. She had been helping us out by watching Miss J one day a week (MIL was watching her another day) so that we only had her in daycare part time. Saving us bunches of money!! Well, last week she watched JW on Monday/Tuesday (so we didn't have to pay a week of tuition for a short week). After those couple of days...combined with her back really acting up...she ended up telling us she didn't think she could watch both kids. I asked her about continuing to watch just Miss J...and she kind of hesitated and said she didn't think she could do that either.

Ugh...going from one kid in part time to two kids full time...wasn't planning on that for the month of December. I mean, I knew that at any time my mom might just step up and say she couldn't help out any more or that they were taking a long vacation and couldn't take them for a month or so...but I guess deep down inside I was hoping that wouldn't happen for awhile. But for it to happen in December, and last minute, with Christmas around the corner, and not much saved up to assist with that extra, extra expense...yeah, not good.

The one good thing is that I can take my remaining vacation on the Friday's during this month (rather than use it up during the week of Christmas). So theoretically, we can still do both kids part time for December, but come January...ugh.

Prayers would be helpful in this area. Back to many decisions on how to handle this...do we switch schools? Do we suck up having to pay an extra $600 per month to have them both in full time? Where do we get that extra money?

DH really needs another vehicle seeing his truck is only a single cab truck and you really can't put two kids in car seats all in the front seat. But we are not sure that we can afford another car payment...especially with two kids in daycare full time!! So, another "what do we do" is in order.

Despite these contemplating issues...I still am finding peace and have a lot of faith that it will all work out. I am not sure why I am settled about it all...but deep down I am. Maybe because I have so many other things to worry about right now, this seems the worst of my problems?

JW is still REALLY colicky. I don't like it. And I don't think he does either. We never know how our evenings are going to be. If he will settle down and sleep for a few hours, or if he will be up and screaming for a few hours, or if he will be up and down off and on for a few hours. No prediction...and man that is exhausting. He did have his first chiropractic adjustment last week and the doc showed me some trigger points and techniques to use to help with the colic stuff. It kind of works...not as much as Mylicon works though. But again, it is all hit or miss, just when we think we have found something that works, the next night it doesn't.

I just want a routine with him! I just want to know what time I will be getting up in the morning and whether I will have a high strung frustrating evening or one that I can relax and catch up on some TV sitcoms (or sleep through some TV sitcoms). I think it is getting better, but I feel like it is two steps forward, then one step back. At least we are making some forward progress!!

OK, now a question for you ladies that have the I*U*D Mir*ena. I really contemplated which one to get, the copper one or the Mir*ena with hormones. After many recommendations, I chose the later. But I wonder about your experiences with it.

Did any of you get one while breastfeeding? Did it affect your milk supply?

How long before your periods evened out or diminished?

Did you have spotting or heavy bleeding the first few weeks/months?

Do you love it or hate it?

I just got mine about 1 1/2 weeks ago, and have had what seems like a period for the past four days. I had some spotting from them putting it in, then nothing, then a period. I just want to know if this will stop soon or if I will have this for a few weeks/months? To me it just seems so unpredictable...and if you know me...I am all for a predictable kind of life!! I don't like spotting or not knowing about when I am going to have a period. It is so inconvenient and frustrates me. But that is why I want any ones feedback that currently has it. Thanks.

I really have a bunch to talk about, but don't want you to get bored with an extra long post today...so I will try to spread it out!

Prayers and feedback are much appreciated!!

5 comments:

MBKimmy said...

good luck with the little one - we still don't have a schedule - he has colic and acid reflux it is not FUN at all!

Good luck with day care and really it will all work out - I have NO IDEA how we are making it with 2 house payments, but we are!

Emma's Mommy said...

We never really had a schedule with Emmaline when she was itty bitty. She had colic and reflux and so our schedule ended up being whatever she set it at. It WAS exhausting!!! So...Good Luck!!!

As for the IUD - Since we had fertility issues I decided not to go that route, so I have no idea. I do know that since I breastfed I didn't have a period for almost 9 months. So hopefully even with your IUD you will get a reprieve from that aspect of life. :-)

Platinum Rose said...

Sending many prayers your way, your life sounds so hectic and stressful right now! I hope you continue to be able to find some peace in all of that. I hope that everything will work out ok with the costs of daycare, etc. I wish I had some advice for you about the IUD but I have yet to use one of them...for now I'm going in the opposite direction! Just got OFF the pill.

Sending you my thoughts and prayers!

Brandy said...

I completely understand about childcare - my son is watched by my grandma but she definitely can't handle both so we have to pay for Olivia for at least 3 days a week, which is HARD. Of course we have it a lot easier than some and I do thank the Lord for that.

I ended up getting the Mirena and so far am happy with it. I got it approx 7 weeks ago and so far it's been fine. I'm breastfeeding too and have had NO issues with my milk, which was my main concern. Thus far I've had some irregular bleeding but I'm also hoping that will work itself out. I didn't bleed for the first 4 weeks or so and then had spotting, perior like bleeding, and spotting again. I was even spotting yesterday but haven't been today. I hope the first 6 months aren't a pain for you, just as I'm hoping that for myself as well! :-)

Kelley said...

Okay, I can't believe I've been out of touch for so long you are back at work already!!

I have a suggestion for the daycare. You might want to look into sittercity.com, even for just a day or two a week. It's how I got my job, and it is cheaper than daycare. If you want more info, just let me know!!