OK, so how could we do it? I have been boggling this stuff around in my head for a couple of months, and even more the past week or so. Have another baby that is? I mean, with only having one income, with having a pretty small house, with a husband who is really bummed out about not having a job and not feeling like he is "contributing" to the family.
I mean, it could be done. We could live, on a VERY tight budget, with one income. We could make our small house work if we get rid of a LOT of stuff and consolidate, consolidate, consolidate. It is a possibility...but I am not fully convinced yet. Even though I am taking my pre-natal vitamins (they are just as good if not better than daily women's vitamins), I have been off the pill for almost 4-months now, I have lost most if not all of my baby weight and am still progressing down the scale, and I have been imagining our life with another newborn crying and waking us up at all hours of the night. It could be done.
So, I have been doing a lot of praying. Not only for my husband and his job situation and emotional situation, but for us as a family and direction on the baby front. I really do not want to wait much longer, max 6-months, just because I would rather them not be too far apart in age. And we don't have any trips or weddings planned for the next year or so (at least weddings that I have to stand up in). I won't be 35 for another 2-years (which means you are a high risk pregnancy) - wait a minute, that is a reason not to have another sooner than later.
Oh, I don't know, guess I just needed to process the thoughts that are going through my head.
Last night, as we made at least 6 trips in and out of Miss J's room because she just didn't want to go to bed, I stood by her crib looking at her, and thinking about having an infant in the house again. The long nights. Would he/she be the same good non-colicky baby who was such a pleasure to be a mom to? How would we deal with two kids, one infant crying multiple times through the night, and a toddler who can put herself to bed in a big girl bed. It is not like it hasn't been done, but I just can't imagine ourselves doing it. But, I think I felt the same way when we were thinking about having our first. You can't imagine it. But, I knew we were ready and it was right.
That is what I am lacking right now. The "knowing" that we are ready and it is right. So, I continue to pray. I do have the desire...believe me...but just that feeling of knowing it is the right time, is not there yet. More prayer, more conversation with DH, more imagining. When God's timing is right, it will happen.
If I don't talk to ya girls before Thanksgiving...hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your families. Remember to give lots of thanks, lots of giving, and remember those who are less fortunate than you are. Say a little prayer for them.
LCP
8 comments:
I think about that same thing all the time, yet I KNOW the timing isn't right for us. I'm not ready for all that again, yet I catch myself thinking about it constantly. It's hard to know....hard to be sure that the timing is right....sometimes you just have to take that chance, you know?!
I know you'll make the right decesion and God will allow it to happen when he wants it to...if I were you, I'd just sit back and relax. You aren't on the pill, so you'll get pregnant when God wants you too...then you'll know it's the right time. good luck!!!
It is a very hard decision to make. It is hard enough the first time - but so very different the second time around.
God has a plan and when the time is right Miss J will have a sibling. Just sit back, relax and enjoy!!!!
I totally understand how you feel!! I want another one, but I know that deep down now is not the right time. I really want to spend some more time enjoying Mia, and I want Mike to have a job, and I want a house that is big enough for our family. I know that I have to be patient and that when I am truly ready, like you said, I will know it.
If it is meant to be it will happen!!!
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!!
Well I definitely don't know how to do it! I am worried about making it all work with one!!! But kids are such a blessing and I'm sure that things will work out for you!
How exciting! I know it's probably not in the cards for you guys right away, but isn't it a little fun to think about?! It's definitely hard, it's the hardest work you will ever do. But it is definitely the most important and rewarding!
I hope you had a great Thanksgiving!
I know what you mean about getting ready for baby # 2. We're already thinking about it...not anytime soon for us but just thinking about when will it be right. Just keep praying on it. But like the others said...I think you should just have fun and see what happens. :)
Jonathan and I are ONE income. We do just fine. We work hard to not spend unless it is needed. It works out. You will eventually have another one anyway... so why not just go for it?
Oh, I know how you feel. We are already talking about another but we have all the same issues that you are concerned about to. Hang in there. You will be able to handle whatever comes your way.
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